I wrote this this afternoon. While I was white hot with anger. I considered deleting it, but thought better of it. I considered toning it down a bit, but thought, no. So will I regret it after hitting the publish button? Perhaps……
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I am sitting here shaking with anger.
Oprah is on and that fucking moron Jenny McCarthy is spouting her sons recovery story.
I want to reach through the TV and wring her fucking neck.
Do you REALISE the damage you are doing!
MOMMY FUCKING INSTINCT. If she says that one more time I will lift the hulking enormous television and throw it through the window.
So, Ms McCarthy, all the parents without ‘recovered’ kids (apparently Autism is like being hit by a bus, you recover and then you have a little boo boo – WTF!?!?!) just don’t have MOMMY INSTINCT. MI for short. I am sure she has trademarked that one.
OMG. I just don’t love my kid enough.
My son is GFCF by default. LOOOOOOOOONG before the Autism was diagnosed he was milk free, LOOOOONG before I heard of the ‘autism diet’ we were trialling gluten free.
My kid did ABA, speech, OT, no artificials etc etc, but my kid is still Autistic. He will always be. The shit and toothpaste all over my walls is freaking testament to that.
But if I had MI ™ and a little more love for my child, he would be cured.
Oh Jenny. You, my dear, are delusional. Sitting there with your Pob (just like Miss Posh) talking about your son being broken In. Front. Of. Him.
I look at that kid and I CAN SEE THE AUTISM! I thought he was recovered. I hear the echolalia.
‘He says the most amazing Budda things’? You fucking idiot. He is mimicking. It is echolalia.
He is clearly maturing. It is clear that the therapy has made a difference. ABA does that.
Now she is talking about the MMR, apparently she had a little voice tell her it would cause Autism. Apparently the seizure her son had was preceded by the ‘little voice’.
Oh. My. Fucking. God.
My phone is going to be ringing off the hook tonight. I will be inundated with people asking me to help them recover their kids. Any one have Ms McCarthy’s phone number?
My son was diagnosed with Classic Autism. Classic, no language, screaming day and night. I was told he would never have functional language or toilet train. I was told to take him home and love him.
He is now doing amazingly. Thanks to therapy. Thanks to hard freaking work. But he still has Autism. He will always have Autism.
He is not recovered. You cannot recover from something that is – in my view – an inherited neurological condition. Minimize the extreme behaivours, work on other issues. Some kids will respond to therapy, some will not. Regardless of how much MI ™ their mothers have. Regardless of how much they love their child.
I read a book once that the mother basically beat her child every day and then sent him to boarding school. Now he is ‘recovered’. Do we endorse that shit? No.
I am sure that diet, supplements, therapy etc etc etc have helped numerous kids. Maybe even thousands. But in my opinion (remember I deal with parents with children on the spectrum every day so I have some experience) if your child is ‘cured’ then they were never on the spectrum in the first place.
The other chick, Holly Robinson whatever. Her I like. I agree with every thing SHE said.
But that McCarthy freakshow needs to be gagged. But first bitch slapped.
And Oprah. How could you.
Now excuse me, that child that I obviously didn’t love enough to cure needs me to go and wipe his arse.
October 22, 2007 at 9:56 pm
Preach it sister!
No first hand experience with Autism here, but I reckon you’ve got it right. Now calm down, and keep doing what you’re doing with Boo – obvioiusly it’s working!
October 22, 2007 at 10:01 pm
My kids aren’t autistic, so I have to see this from a different angle to you. But I have to say, I am appalled that people can sprout crap like this. As parents, especially for Mums, there are so many people that prey on guilt and our uncertainty about whether we have done/continue to do enough for our kids. Its not right, why cant they all leave us alone instead of spreading mis-information and making people doubt themselves more.
I say contact Oprah and boycott Channel 10 for airing it.
Priscilla
October 22, 2007 at 10:16 pm
Only second hand experience here (friends with kids on different ends of the spectrum); but reading that woman’s drivel made me think the silicone had affected her brain (and maybe it’s true what they say about Oprah?)
October 22, 2007 at 10:33 pm
I haven’t seen the Oprah episode but there’s been enough going around the blogosphere to make me think I completely agree with you. From the (admittedly limited) experience I’ve had, autism is not something you just cure or get over. Therapy and love can work wonders though.
October 22, 2007 at 10:53 pm
So…tell me what you really think. I would write a longer comment, but I’m off to go cure my son’s metal toxicity with my Mommy Instinct.
Got to go empty his “bucket”, you know…..Gah. Delusional, is right.
Keep doing what you’re doing with your son…..but try not to flash your panties while you’re at it.
October 23, 2007 at 12:28 am
I was watchng that show and turned it off in disgust when she started spouting her pet theory about vaccination causing autism. I’ll give her the “one size” does not fit all point when it comes to vaccines, but to go on Oprah and say it causes autism? The woman is a nutter……. and an asshat to boot!!
October 23, 2007 at 12:37 am
Kelley -
I love this, and how many times have I wanted to say it myself? Only about four million.
You know my history from other bloggity/online avenues. I don’t think autism can be cured. It’s not something a person HAS, it’s something a person IS. Seriously, for those who haven’t yet read it, I strongly suggest reading Jim Sinclair’s “Don’t Mourn For Us” essay (it’s on my blog, left sidebar, see below). Right in the middle of that essay Jim (who is an autistic adult) speaks profound words along the lines of ‘autism is not an appendage’ and ‘you cannot separate the child from the autism’ and ‘autism is pervasive – it colours every thought, every emotion, every action’. I can’t even take people seriously who tell me Little Johnny was on the spectrum but is now fine, with ‘no autistic symptoms, hallelujah’. Hogwash. Or that organisation in America – CAN (cure autism now). I would absolutely (duh) support raising funds and awareness of autism but with a name like that? Talk about false hope.
Then again, I must be one of the few autism mommas out there that don’t blame the MMR, don’t read every self-help autism book, don’t go the way of chelation (what on EARTH is that anyway?), and don’t prance around wearing my martyr hat all day long, wiping the bums with a smile on my face while praying for a cure. Nope, I’m like you. I’ve wiped so many bums that I can tell what he had for breakfast the day before even if I wasn’t the one to serve it to him. I changed nappies until he was 6 and smiled politely but seethed inside whenever I heard about Little Tamika (or Dakota or Mackenzie or…) not being toilet trained at age 3 and ‘oh my god I must be a failure because I’m the last person in playgroup to get my child into princess panties (or, you know, jocks)’. Good Lord, I’d have loved to see them trying to change my boy – not a toddler or a baby but a real live BOY – with a nappy that was one hair’s breadth away from needing to be switched for an ADULT NAPPY because no brand on the shelves have a size for a 6yo (don’t even get me started with Pull Ups or Dry Nites….auughh). Every heard of the expression Mr Whippy Poo? My son was the President. The day he learned to toilet train (literally, he ‘got it’ in the space of one school holidays after four solid years of trying) I sat in the corner of the bathroom and BAWLED UNTIL MY EYES WERE RAW I was that happy. So Little Miss Perfect Playgroup, don’t even START with your list of woes. You have NO IDEA (reading that back it seems like that is directed at you. You know it’s not, right? LOL. Good. Just checking!)
If you were to ask me five years from now, even ten years, about my greatest parenting moment, I’d skip right on over those birth stories, over the gifted thing with our middle child, over the joy at FINALLY getting a girl or any number of itty bitty victories from any of the three kids. I’d say, with no trace of sarcasm, it was the year he decided to talk (no speech at age 2, dozen words at age 3 and only about 50 by diagnosis at age 3.5 – compared to his sister who was speaking better at age 2 than he was at age five). And the day he toilet trained.
He’s done some awesome stuff these last few years and we’re now at the point where he’s settled, a lot of his behavioural stuff is gone (it didn’t ‘go away’ or ‘be cured’, he just matured more and was able to cope better – that’s just basic level parenting, same as the other two kids), he’s just a happy kid. And we’ve never had the poo and toothpaste issue to deal with. Or a lot of the other stuff that I read about. We’re very lucky. But I’ve peeked over that fence and I know what it’s like on the other side.
Last New Year’s, the family of Jake’s old classmate (he’s always been in a special ed classroom within a mainstream school, but transfered to his new school at the beginning of 2007) lost their little boy. Out of five kids, two (including Jake’s classmate and his younger brother), possibly three, were on the spectrum. This little boy climbed a 6ft high Colorbond fence, wandered down the hill to the creek, and drowned. I’d like to drag Jenny McCarthy’s butt (didn’t see Oprah, but I’m sure I’d have an opinion on it…)to a 5yo’s Wiggles-themed funeral. Cure? What a freakin’ insult.
Cheers,
Lizzie
(sorry for the strong opinions! LOL)
October 23, 2007 at 3:01 am
Hugs HUN! WE KNOW YOU LOVE BOO!! If you didn’t, then he surely wouldnt have survived this long or be talking as well as he does, and he certainly wouldnt be able to paint his murals because you would have broken his arms by now.
IGNORE THE STUPID WOMAN! Heres to hoping the people that contact you are smart enough to KNOW THE STUPID WOMAN WAS SPOUTING DRIVEL!
October 23, 2007 at 3:01 am
Just adding my reply on FIA :
Grrr I am soo glad i don’t watch that drivel anymore. I totally refuse point blank to watch oprah dr phil or any of that crap.
My child is high functioning, very very mild compared to many asd kids, but i can tell you now that no vaccine caused it, cause his first headbanging session was on day 11 – he wacked his head side to side in his car seat for the entire drive to brisbane (3 entire hours) even with me sitting in the backseat next to him trying to hold his head still. His first immunisation was at the normal time, which was several weeks AFTER THE HEADBANGING!!
As for curing it, well if my child is on the milder end of the scale, how come i cant freaking cure my child? I spent every single minute working with him for his first 12 months, admittedly with no training or instruction, but from what i have read since i covered all the bases quite well. I had started trialling food eliminations when he was 3 and went total elimination diet at 4 and other than the one year his stupid father stuffed him around, he has been gluten/wheat free since the age of 4 and he will be 10 in january.
So while i didnt watch the show, I am totally disgusted that they put such garbage on the show (and i can even get links for a number of studies done into the vaccination/autism links. One of which was in a country where they actually stopped all childrens vaccinations for ten years and had autism levels INCREASE countrywide).
October 23, 2007 at 4:17 am
Hear, hear! Although I haven’t seen her on Oprah, I agree with you. I wish there were some big, mainstream voices out there talking about acceptance of our wonderful (loved) children, rather than just trying to cure them.
October 23, 2007 at 5:44 am
I have been hearing so much about Jenny McCarthy and autism with her son. She seems to be exploiting the poor kid everywhere. I think it is time people stop acting like they know all the answers. I believe as with many child-related issues, no one really does.
October 23, 2007 at 9:44 am
She fucking irritates me. And now moreso. I am gonna take tonight to make up a word just for her, just for you.
Idiot.
October 23, 2007 at 11:07 am
Bravo! If I have to listen to another mom at Gymboree talk about how she’s kept her kids from being vaccinated ever since she “learned about the damage they do…” I will scream.
And it’s stuff like this that makes it so much worse…
October 23, 2007 at 5:29 pm
I think you do an amazing job each and every day. Jenny McCarthy needs to be shot.
That is all.
October 23, 2007 at 6:25 pm
I am glad I didn’t see that rubbish. And the scary thing is that people believe that if it is on Oprah then it must be true.
Is she also proposing that she can cure other diabilities & problems children have through Mummy Instinct?
And it puts you right back on the motehr guilt train.
Kelley you do awesome things with Boo & I enjoy hearing you revel in his victories.
October 23, 2007 at 9:42 pm
Was watching that yesterday and thinking two things,
she is just too perfect to be a real person theres somnething just not right about her and
I bet kelly is seathing if she’s watching this
hope you didn’t get too many hopefuls
October 23, 2007 at 11:02 pm
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December 14, 2007 at 8:33 pm
Nothing I can say that hasn’t already been said. Oh yeah, how about once a bimbo always a bimbo? I adore these idiot celebs getting an opinion and thinking the rest of us really care.
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April 7, 2008 at 12:33 pm
Thank you for not deleting this. The sane voices around this issue are being quashed. Unfortunately I don’t think anyone is going to change people’s view on the “evils” of vaccination until we have a massive outbreak of a disease that was easily preventable.
I also have an autistic son and in all the videos I see the same thing you do. An autistic kid. The way he plays is the same way my son does, the video on Larry King had him lining up his toys; sure it wasn’t a straight line but it certainly wasn’t normal pretend play either. Besides if he’s so cured why wasn’t he at the premiere of Horton like all the other celebu-tots?
When I was growing up my Mother had MS, and she was easily conned into the new age cure of the day. She tried all of them, shockingly none of them worked. There is a reason many of these treatments don’t have clinical trials. It’s because the people who support them don’t want them because they’d be proven not to work. Anyways it was from this background I ended up with a son with Autism. I was very vigilant when he was diagnosed to avoid the con artists who prey on people with mysterious incurable and inexplicable diseases. And that’s exactly what I see when I see Jenny McCarthy and her crew on TV.
July 27, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Sometimes I wonder about the accuracy of her sons Dx. She said that she took him to a neurologist and 5 minutes later, he come out and told her that he had Autism. As an Autism Specialist, I know you can’t just look at a child for 5 minutes and know they have an ASD DX. I know Pediatric Neuropsychologists along side with neurologists, SLP, neurodevelopmental pediatricians take nearly a week worth of testing (academic, IQ, adaptive behavioral, medical testing, neuropsychological assessments, etc) to come up with a DX. Look up DSM-4-TR, and find the criteria for autism.
October 29, 2008 at 6:41 am
Totally agree. Jenny McCarthy is an asshat. The skeptoid podcast lists her as #2 and Oprah as #1 in the 10 worst celebrities who endorse harmful pseudoscience. I myself have Aspergers Syndrome. The anti-vaccine nonsense is also pseudoscience. This does real harm – parents may not get their children vaccinated because they fear them becoming autistic therefore opening them up to the very real threat of diseases that were thought conquered decades ago. Not to mention possibly spreading them to others. Unfortunately, the understanding the average American has of Science and critical thinking is abysmal.
November 5, 2008 at 1:52 pm
I understand, my beautiful son a straight a student,football hero,much loved popular with all sweetheart, at 17 became severly mentally ill, his siblings all saw the movie “Lorenzo’s Oil” and seem to resent the fact that I haven’t cured Zach yet…..the burden of guilt is overwhelming but I love him and do my best to take care of him, he is 26 now and I seem to be his only friend. God help us all